A Guide to Understanding Women

Women might be among the most beautiful creations on this planet but they sure aren’t easy to understand. Not many men can claim to have figured out what goes through a woman’s mind. In fact this is the biggest complaint of most men – that they cannot understand their women. To truly understand a woman perhaps what is needed is to recognize the basic differences in men and women because it is these differences that make women think and consequently act and react differently.

• Women look for safety and security in the world while for a man the world is a place to compete. In today’s world the woman might not entirely depend on a man but she does need the comfort and protection of the man (no matter how vociferously she might deny it) So she is on the lookout for a man who is not only capable of caring for her but also emotionally strong.
  

• When a woman finds that security in the form of the right man her inner urge to take care of her man and her world takes over. This is why women pay so much attention to detail and beauty, they not only are particular of taking care of themselves but also their man and their house. Everything in the woman’s immediate environment is an extension of who she is and so she takes care of everything that is precious to her. This is also an important part of her femininity. Appreciation from her man means a lot for her and so she also needs frequent reassurances from her man about her appearance among other things. 

• Most men have heard enough already about the need of women to communicate. But this need arises from the desire of the woman to connect with those around her. Talking, touching, looking all help in expressing and attaining that connection for her. So being a good listener can really help the man in better understanding and appreciating women.

• It is also important to understand that talking in itself is a deeply cathartic process for women. Since men tend to be instinctively competitive and more or less result oriented they look at talking as a way to finding solutions. In fact any problem immediately needs to be resolved from a man’s perspective and talking about it cannot really serve any purpose for most men. For a woman however it is important that she understands the problem and the perspective of her partner on any issue. Solution is not essentially what she is looking for. A woman feels truly understood when her man just hears her out.

• For a woman sex has a lot to do with intimacy and this is what makes her picky about letting in a man. The way their bodies are made and the changes in their bodies during the sexual act mean that sex is a way for them to communicate and connect with their men at a deeper level. Sex can never be only sex for most women. It has a huge emotional impact on women. This is also what sadly makes them deny sex to their partners in the event of a fight.
  

• What women look out for most in their life is a man who can provide them with physical, emotional security (someone who is faithful) and economic stability. She wants someone she can depend on so she might date the "bad boy" but she is bound to marry the nice, stable man in the end. And for the woman the word nice does not mean submissive behavior. She wants someone who can make up his own mind and is independent since these are often associated with the masculinity in the man.

• Women want the man to do the chasing and that is why most women play hard to get in the initial stages. She wants assurance that she is attractive and she will turn on the charm even with men she is not in the least bit attracted to. She will often play mind games like taking your number and not calling you. Women also make the men wait while dating just to see how desperate the man is and how interested he is in pursuing her.

• Some women also play manipulative games such as wearing revealing clothes and acting touchy on dates and then backing out leaving their date hot and bothered. This is just a part of her desire to see how much power and control she can exercise over the man. One of the most irritating traits in a woman is that she expects her man to read her mind. This is again just a ploy to see how much her man cares about her.